SELF-CARE FOR DOMINANTS© | SELF-PACED ONLINE COURSE
What do we do as Dominants following SSC?
• We engage with sexual fantasy, open or repressed
• We listen to bodies, emotions and minds,
• We try to understand our charges
• We communicate
• We connect
• We create
• We direct
• We control
• We teach
• We allow
• We inflict pain, whether physical or, sometime emotional (in a consensual way)
• We chastise, humiliate, ignore, tease, deny etc (in a consensual way)
• We push boundaries
• We monitor progress
• We hold
• We indulge our fantasies
Above all, we care.
As Professional and Scene Dominants, when a scene unfolds successfully and our submissives, slaves, pets, sissies, fetishists, and masochists engage wholeheartedly (when they are not merely passive observers), we enter a vibrant exchange of energy and Power that enriches the experience for all parties involved. As Lifestylers, when we thoughtfully create a structured framework that, overall, satisfies the needs and desires of both partners along the spectrum of Dominance and submission (such as Top/bottom, Master/slave dynamics, etc.), and can also accommodate the demands of our daily lives, the energy between us flows freely and abundantly. However, it is important to note that because the responsibility for this framework rests on the shoulders of the Dominant (even when we are actively co-creating with a devoted, engaged submissive), we run the risk of attempting to dominate while running on low reserves of energy, or even worse, on empty. Speaking as a Dominant woman, I must acknowledge that I do not have enough personal experience with male Dominants to gain a true understanding of how they uniquely express, feel, and reflect upon these dynamics. Nevertheless, I have a strong intuition that what I am describing should not be confined to a specific gender; rather, it holds relevance across the entire spectrum of Dominant and submissive relationships.
My experience is that if we want to practice our art with joy, it is worth thinking about a few things:
Being fully aware of what Power truly means, and recognizing how it feels to ourselves in different contexts, as well as understanding how the various ways to express it can evolve over time. Being conscious of our deepest desires, what genuinely turns us on, and how those sensations can shift and transform. Being attentive to our emotions, thoughts, and the myriad sensations we experience, and how they all contribute to the dynamics of “play.” Being mindful of how our sense of Dominance is impacted when we navigate the world beyond the structured D/s frame.
By honouring where we are at any given time, what we need from ourselves, our submissives, and the world, we can truly enjoy our art / practice and Domme from a “filled tank”, from abundance.
This is the motivating reason why I have created this very first self-paced online course titled “Self-Care for Dominants.” It stands as the inaugural offering in an exciting series of comprehensive courses and workshops specifically designed to empower and educate BDSM and kink aficionados throughout their unique journeys. “Self-Care for Dominants” serves as a profound exploration of a set of concepts and practical tools that I utilise in my practice, aimed at effectively supporting my clients as they work towards achieving greater Inner-authority and an aligned or soul-centred stance both inside and outside the dungeon environment. This introduction aims to thoughtfully present what I understand as Soul-centred BDSM and kink, delve into the fascinating realm of archetypes and archetypal patterns, and illustrate how archetypal astrology can significantly enhance our understanding of these concepts, on one hand. On the other hand, it serves as an insightful introduction to the powerful and transformative set of tools offered by Positive Intelligence® to bolster our mental health, facilitate Shadow work, and guide us on Initiatory Journeys that align us with our true Self and our soul purpose.
The course will launch on 25th October 2024
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Have a wonderful October and look after yourselves!
Nuit d’Or
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