“Let’s be candid — for most of us, our initial entry into this fascinating world of unequal relationships and BDSM, is through the lens of fantasy. The irresistible allure of hierarchical structures, the intricate choreography of high protocol, and the intoxicating dynamics associated with power—whether it be in submission or control—are undeniably compelling and captivating. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that initial attraction. “

For many, the initial attraction to BDSM is compelling. There’s a curiosity to explore power dynamics, to give up control or take it in a way that feels both freeing, erotic and exhilarating. The promise of self-discovery, creativity, and even spiritual awakening is alluring, empowering. There’s the possibility of uncovering aspects of oneself that have been repressed or hidden, breaking through the barriers of conventionality and entering a world where the mind and body are stretched in new, intense ways.

Yet, alongside this desire lies the looming fear. The fear of what others might think, the fear of vulnerability, and perhaps most pressing—the fear of change. To embrace BDSM is to open the door to new experiences that can feel destabilising, even threatening, and immensely erotic in the moment. Until… waking up from a hot fantasy, or even better a scene, questions arise often unwarranted: How will this fit with my life? Can I keep this hidden? What if I can’t handle it?

'By honouring where we are at any given time, what we need from ourselves, our submissives, and the world, we can truly enjoy our art / practice and Domme from a “filled tank”, from abundance. "